Undercurrent.

Writing on the patterns underneath everyday emotional life, from the clinicians at Coastal Therapy Group.

29 essays · 11 writers · Encinitas, Carlsbad, Vista

The latest · C. Julieta Aguilera Rice, PhD

Acceptance Is Not Approval

Accepting a painful reality does not mean condoning it. A Carlsbad psychologist on what acceptance actually asks of you, why fighting a feeling backfires, and how acceptance is what makes action possible.

August 11, 2026 · 4 min read

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The series.

Our clinicians write in clusters: one essay that lays out the whole idea, then shorter pieces that go deeper into one part of it. Start at the top of a series and work down, or read any one on its own.

  1. 01

    Acceptance and commitment therapy

    ACT explained from inside the room: the six processes as they actually show up in a session, one essay at a time.

    1. Start here What Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Actually Is, From Inside the Room 4 min
    2. 01 Cognitive Defusion: How to Stop Believing Everything Your Mind Says 4 min
    3. 02 Acceptance Is Not Approval 4 min
    4. 03 The Difference Between Letting Go and Giving Up 4 min
  2. 02

    Culturally responsive care

    What it takes for therapy to hold culture, family, and immigration history as part of the clinical picture instead of background detail.

    1. Start here Culturally Sensitive Therapy: What It Feels Like to Be Understood 7 min
    2. 01 Cultural Competence vs. Cultural Humility in Therapy: What It Means to Be Truly Seen 4 min
    3. 02 Finding Healing and Belonging: Embracing Mental Health for Asian Americans 8 min
    4. 03 Culturally Compassionate Care for Asian American Clients: Insights for Therapists 9 min
  3. 03

    The cycle and the mind

    How the menstrual cycle shapes mood, and where the ordinary premenstrual week ends and something that deserves treatment begins.

    1. Start here The menstrual cycle and your emotional life: what the medical model leaves out 8 min
    2. 01 PMS vs PMDD: how to tell the difference 5 min
    3. 02 Feeling like a different person before your period 4 min
  4. 04

    Defenses and the unsaid

    The moves a mind makes to keep itself comfortable, read closely and without judgement, from a psychodynamic frame.

    1. Start here Defense mechanisms, explained in plain language 7 min
    2. 01 Splitting in psychology: why the mind sees all good or all bad 8 min
  5. 05

    Psychoanalytic diagnosis

    What it means to understand a person by their level of personality organization and character style rather than their symptom list, and why that changes how the work is done.

    1. Start here Understanding psychoanalytic diagnosis: a different way of seeing people 8 min

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Every essay, newest first.

  1. Acceptance Is Not Approval C. Julieta Aguilera Rice, PhD · Aug 11, 2026
  2. Cultural Competence vs. Cultural Humility in Therapy: What It Means to Be Truly Seen Naomi Wu, PsyD · Aug 11, 2026
  3. The Difference Between Letting Go and Giving Up C. Julieta Aguilera Rice, PhD · Aug 6, 2026
  4. Feeling like a different person before your period Naomi Wu, PsyD · Aug 3, 2026
  5. Splitting in psychology: why the mind sees all good or all bad Sean Noe, PhD · Aug 3, 2026
  6. Understanding psychoanalytic diagnosis: a different way of seeing people Jean Jho, PsyD · Jul 26, 2026
  7. Cognitive Defusion: How to Stop Believing Everything Your Mind Says C. Julieta Aguilera Rice, PhD · Jul 24, 2026
  8. Culturally Sensitive Therapy: What It Feels Like to Be Understood Naomi Wu, PsyD · Jul 17, 2026
  9. What Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Actually Is, From Inside the Room C. Julieta Aguilera Rice, PhD · Jul 15, 2026
  10. PMS vs PMDD: how to tell the difference Naomi Wu, PsyD · Jul 13, 2026
  11. The menstrual cycle and your emotional life: what the medical model leaves out Naomi Wu, PsyD · Jul 10, 2026
  12. Defense mechanisms, explained in plain language Sean Noe, PhD · Jul 9, 2026
  13. A Faith that Unfolds: A Developmental Perspective of Faith in Adolescence Sean Noe, PhD · May 22, 2026
  14. Why Trauma Symptoms Can Show Up Years Later in Women Guest Author · May 9, 2026
  15. DBT Skills Are For Everyone: Why This Therapy Isn’t Just for Crisis Jenna Suway, PhD · May 5, 2026
  16. Can AI Replace Therapy? Why a Digital Face Will Never Be Human Reid Kessler, PsyD · Apr 19, 2026
  17. What Words Cannot Hold: A Therapist's Reflections on Emotional Awareness Bethany Ling, PsyD · Mar 5, 2026
  18. What Is a Process Group? Inside Real Talk, Our Adult Interpersonal Process Group Sean Noe, PhD · Dec 9, 2025
  19. What Does It Mean When We Say “Relational Psychotherapy”? Bethany Ling, PsyD · Nov 14, 2025
  20. Self-Compassion For When We Screw Up Taryn Gammon, PhD · Oct 5, 2025
  21. Finding Healing and Belonging: Embracing Mental Health for Asian Americans Naomi Wu, PsyD · Sep 16, 2025
  22. Culturally Compassionate Care for Asian American Clients: Insights for Therapists Naomi Wu, PsyD · Jul 10, 2025
  23. Healing from Religious Trauma Gabriel Lowe, PhD · Sep 22, 2022
  24. Understanding Transference in Therapy Jean Jho, PsyD · Dec 16, 2020
  25. Understanding the Shape of Your Grief: Secondary Losses and Mediators of Mourning Lindsey G. Robertson, PhD · Dec 5, 2019
  26. Keys to Understanding the Grief Process: Introduction to Worden’s Four Tasks of Mourning Lindsey G. Robertson, PhD · Nov 25, 2019
  27. To Give Advice or Not To Give Advice: How To Be Present With Our Loved Ones In Their Suffering Jean Jho, PsyD · Oct 4, 2019
  28. Ways To Support Your Partner With Depression Reid Kessler, PsyD · Jul 26, 2019
  29. Why Is My Anxiety Getting Worse? Reid Kessler, PsyD · May 29, 2018

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About Undercurrent.

Undercurrent is the in-house publication of Coastal Therapy Group, a relational psychodynamic group practice with offices in Encinitas, Carlsbad, and Vista. The essays are written by our clinicians, who spend their working hours listening closely to the stories people tell themselves and thinking about what those stories are quietly doing.

Nothing here is a substitute for therapy. If something you read makes you curious about the work of being known, we would be glad to hear from you.